What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a normal response to the challenges we face on a day-to-day basis. Anxiety is our body’s smoke alarm system to keep us safe from danger. When you have a food allergy or live with the risk of anaphylaxis, your alarm system can be more sensitive because you’re living with a potentially life-threatening condition. Like a smoke alarm it can be helpful. For example, when you are a parent of a child with a food allergy some level of anxiety can help keep you aware of potential risks.

Unfortunately, smoke alarms sometimes also go off when you have burnt toast. So it’s important to recognise a false alarm when it comes to anxiety!

So how do we recognise when our smoke alarm has gone off? The tricky thing about allergy and anxiety is that they can feel very similar.

Signs of when anxiety is getting unhelpful:

Thoughts

• Worried thoughts that are hard to shake off
• Unpleasant/distressing thoughts or images
• Stressful memories

Feelings

• Loss of confidence/feeling low
• Stress
• Panic

Behaviour

• Not going out
• Restricting food (even safe foods)
• Spending lots of time checking
• Not doing the things you want to do or need to do

Spot the unhelpful anxiety!

Reminding your child to take their adrenaline (epinephrine) injector (e.g. EpiPen® or Anapen®) before they go out - helpful

Flagging that your child has an allergy before a sleepover with the other child’s parents - helpful

Insisting on going with your child when they’re out with friends to a restaurant - unhelpful

Your child forgets their adrenline injector and you find it hard to calmly discuss how to prevent this from happening in the future - unhelpful

Anxiety can be contagious!

As a parent, it’s almost our job to worry about our child, and there is cause for even more worry when they have a chronic condition like an allergy.

Just like in the safety briefing on a plane, it’s important to put the oxygen mask on yourself before assisting your child. So it’s important to look after yourself! By recognizing and addressing your own anxiety, you will not only be better and more able to care for your child, but you will also prevent anxiety from spreading

How do I look after myself when I just don’t have the time

Just like how anxiety can be contagious, calmness can be contagious too! So the better you are at keeping calm, the better your child will be at managing stress.

The best way to practise calm is to practise self-care.

“But I don’t have the time for self-care! How do I fit this in my day?”- well, the key is finding micro moments to practise self-care. Here are some examples to get you started:

• When you’ve stopped at the traffic lights, tense your muscles for 3 seconds and then relax your muscles for 3 seconds
• Park your car a little further away to get an extra 5 minutes of exercise
• Do relaxation (e.g. deep breathing) with your child
• Set aside 10 minutes at the end of the day (when everyone else has gone to bed) to do something for you – that could be listening to your favourite songs, debriefing with someone, writing down your worries, enjoying a herbal tea or drawing

Another great way to press pause on anxiety is to focus our attention away from anxiety. We can use our senses to help us do this!

Try the 5-4-3-2-1 exercise:

This is a skill that takes practise, so try to find a moment each day to practise! You can do this exercise with any everyday activity. For example, the next time you have a shower – notice what you see, listen out to the sound of the water or play your favourite song in the background, notice the temperature of the water, feel the sensation of the soap/shampoo, notice the smell of the soap/shampoo, and take one deep breath before you jump out of the shower

WHERE TO GET HELP

A psychologist can help you and your child explore and address anxiety. You can see a psychologist in the community by getting a referral from a GP. A great way to find a psychologist is through:

1. www.psychology.org.au/Find-a-Psychologist

2. Or giving your local Headspace a call/message: headspace.org.au/headspace-centres You could also consider reaching out to your child’s school counsellor for extra help.

There are some helpful organisations that can provide information and support:

• Allergy & Anaphylaxis Australia
  • a national support organisation for people managing allergies including the risk of anaphylaxis
  • 1300 728 000
  • www.allergyfacts.org.au
• 250K
  • an information hub for the 250 000 Australian teens and young adults with severe allergies
  • www.allergy250k.org.au

These are some great books:

• Helping Your Anxious Child: A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents by R. Rapee, A. Wignall, S. H. Spence, V. Cobham and H. Lyneham.
• Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by D. J. Siegel.
• Managing Your Child’s Food Allergy: The Complete Australian Guide for Parents by A. Orman

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Developed by the Adolescent Medicine Team at The Children’s Hospital at Westmead, NSW Australia in collaboration with Allergy & Anaphylaxis Australia